Girls are passive aggressive. They have a language made up not only of words, but tone and expression. Even how slowly you draw out a word, can change the meaning. "Okay" can just mean "Alright" while "Okayyyyyy" becomes "I think you are a freaking moron and don't know why you would ever think this would be a good idea". And other women get this. I have given up trying to explain this to my guy friends, they never get why the polite phrases uttered by other women can send me over the edge. BECAUSE THIS IS A GIRL THING!
Men are very obvious creatures. They want a beer, they simply state "I want a beer". Or better yet, go get one. But if a woman would like her man to get her a drink it becomes a wistful sigh and a "I wish I had a beer". And ladies, instead of automatically assuming that he should go get you a drink, he will most likely tell you there are some in the fridge. Men do not pick up hints. They completely miss subtle hints. Don't even get obvious hints. So now, you are pissed he missed the hint. You get up, stalk into the kitchen and probably start slamming stuff around in a cue that you are mad. But don't expect an apology, since he has no clue why you are pissed or even that it is his fault.
So many fights start this way. Ladies expect men to interact the same way they do and view it as being insensitive rather than being clueless. But that's simply what it is. Men do not get it. They are not mind readers and even if they were, they would just take the statement at face value. If a man asks you what is wrong and you say nothing, he will just accept that nothing is wrong and move on to the next thought in his brain. He isn't going to spend the next three hours pondering why "nothing" was said with a long suffering sigh that must hint at deeper meaning. So if something is wrong just say "I am pissed you ate all my fancy Belgian chocolate. Buy me more please."
Perhaps it is a long career in childcare, urging children to "use their words" if they want or need anything, but to me this lesson is obvious. Women need to articulate what they want, need or feel. Because really, when you're being a passive aggressive bitch, your guy doesn't get it anyway so you are only pissing yourself off.
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