A friend of mine really wanted to break up with his girlfriend. Being too much of a coward (or in the code men use to defend themselves, "too lazy"), to do it himself he decided to just do everything he could to piss her off until she dumped him. He would ignore her phone calls. He would be rude right to her face. He turned into a complete asshole. And to his horror, SHE STAYED WITH HIM. She put up with weeks of this behavior, unwilling to realize or accept that their relationship was clearly over. He wouldn't be treating her that way if he still wanted to be with her.
There is no such as a mixed signal. The signals are all there, but people are too stupid to pick up on them. When it comes to each other, women are the master of subtle code and yet all of this flies out the window when mixed gender relationships come into play.
If someone doesn't ask you out, he doesn't want to go out with you.
If someone doesn't call you back, he doesn't want to talk to you.
If someone doesn't do something they said they would, they don't care enough about you to follow through.
If someone doesn't return messages, they are avoiding you.
It doesn't matter what they have said or done before, pick up on social cues!
There are no excuses or mixed signals to justify whatever crazy story you are telling yourself. Stop asking your girlfriends for advice about the mixed signals you are getting from the cute guy at work who you KNOW wants to ask you out. He is just very busy at work right now. And his mom's sister's aunt's neighbor is in the hospital. But you are one hundred thousand percent sure he likes you because he always says good morning in the hall. And that is a sign isn't it?
Women can justify anything to convince themselves that what they want is really going to happen and that is where "mixed signals" came from. You want to believe something so badly that you are willing to convince yourself that is within your grasp. But what you really need is someone to say is "Girl, unless he is in a wheelchair unable to articulate and must only use his blink code to ask you out, there is no signal he is sending. So stop clinging to the desperate hope that his picking up the pencil you dropped or asking how your day was is his nonverbal cue to marry him".
No matter how tempted you are to make allowances for the mixed signals, realize next time that they really don't exist. Except in your mind.
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